Many
people find it hard to believe when I tell them, but there is quite a western
culture in southern Illinois, where I came from. The culture in the southern
tip of the state is quite different from the northern part. It is imbued with
the twang of the Ozarks on the west and the proximity of the Appalachian
Mountains on the east. And it is only a nine-hour drive from Carbondale,
Illinois to Dallas, Texas (and only a little over three hours to Nashville,
Tennessee).
So,
it should not be too surprising that my father, Chuck Smith, from the time he
was a young boy, was at heart a cowboy. Somewhere I have a picture of him as a
tow-headed three-year-old astride a pony, wearing a cowboy hat.
When
I was in junior high, we acquired an honest-to-goodness stereo system. Dad had
his own favorite records. He loved Big Band music, and songs by Irish tenors;
but the one genre that he - and only he - loved was western music. I’m not
talking about twangy country-western music, but what I would term cowboy music.
Johnny Cash, The Sons of the Pioneers, and so forth. When he would put one of
these albums on the turntable, it was a very limited engagement, because not
much time would pass before Mom would ask him to please play something else.
But I still have memories of “The Ring of Fire,” “Ghost Riders in the Sky,” and
“When It’s Twilight on the Trail.” Dad would always get a little misty when he
played this last one.
Let
me insert a parenthetical narrative here about myself. I was always one of
those girls who loved horses. And it wasn’t from any exposure to them, since we
never owned one. I always read books about horses, anything I could get my
hands on from the school or public library. For someone who never had much
exposure to real, live horses, I knew a lot about them. And when at my Grandma
Smith’s house on the edge of town, I would often wander over to the Sniders’
horse barn and feed their horses grass through the fence and pet their velvet
noses. Sometimes I would have very vivid dreams about riding a horse, even though
I had never been on one alone.
For
many years, when my birthday was approaching and my parents (usually my mom)
would ask me what I wanted, my answer would be “a horse.” It was explained
patiently, year after year, that we had no place to keep a horse. To be honest,
I had to agree that a horse didn’t seem like anything I could ever have. Still
they haunted my dreams, until a time when, during music camp in DuQuoin I had
the opportunity to go on an afternoon trail ride and ended my day with a debilitating
asthma attack. I think it was a reaction to the hay; nevertheless, that
experience made it obvious that my severe allergies made horse ownership an
impossibility.
But
back to Dad...
During
my early working years, when I was living on my own, yet close to my parents’
house, another trend emerged. My dad developed a fondness for western wear.
Perhaps he had always had this penchant, and it was merely waiting for the opportune moment to emerge. He
stopped wearing regular shoes and started wearing cowboy boots. He stopped
wearing regular suits and wore western suits. And cowboy shirts, the kind that
snap up the front. Since I wasn’t living with my parents anymore, it seemed
like a sudden transformation. One visit, he was dressed like a normal guy. The
next time, he was all tricked out like a cowboy. It was as if like Superman, he
had stepped into a special cowboy phone booth. My mom and sister jokingly
referred to him as “Cowboy Bob.”
Somewhere
during this time, I got married and moved to Maryland.
Fast
forward a couple of years. This era is filled with a roller-coaster ride of my
parents’ painful divorces and remarriages. My dad had a series of short
marriages to a couple of ladies and then a remarriage to my mom, and a divorce
shortly after that. At the end of the saga he bought a horse, because as he put
it, a horse would probably be easier to deal with than a woman and would treat him
better.
I
remember the phone conversation where he described Tex, a 15-year-old chestnut
quarter horse gelding. Tex at one time had been a working horse, and Dad liked
the idea that he was a real cowboy’s horse. He ended his announcement with “So
what do you think?” I responded, “I only wish you had done this 20 years ago.”
Given
that the ostensible reason I could never have a horse when I was a kid was that
we had no place to keep one, I was curious how Dad, who lived in a two-bedroom
apartment, was able to pull it off. The answer was boarding. Tex was kept by
people who lived halfway between Dad’s office and his apartment and owned
several horses themselves. This location was convenient because Dad could stop
off and visit on his way home every day, at least long enough to pet Tex and
give him an apple.
Dad
had big plans to go on trail rides. He took Tex on at least a couple of them;
but he told me that he thought it was too hard on Tex. I think it was too hard
on Chuck. The two old guys were well matched, and Tex seemed a lot like a big
dog - certainly a beloved pet and friend.
I
only had a chance to meet Tex twice (both times I was full to the gills with
allergy medications) and got to ride him the second time around (being pregnant
the first time). Eric was amazed that I could just get on a horse and ride. It
was no fancy feat of equestrian finesse, but knowing how to make a horse stop,
go, and turn are very basic skills where I come from; especially if you had
been obsessed with horses at a young age.
Only
a few years passed, and Dad became very ill with a brain tumor. During his
illness and subsequent surgeries, we continued boarding Tex at the same
location, knowing all the while that Daddy, living six hours north in Chicago
with my brother, would never be well enough to ride again. We didn’t even know
if he would ever be able to visit his old friend again.
In
the meantime, my brother got word from the stables that Tex had passed on. He
was not a young horse at this point - probably about 20 years old. They found
him in the pasture, where he had been turned out to graze with the other
horses. Sometimes we wondered if Tex had pined away for Dad.
My
brother called Me “Do you think we should tell Dad?”
“No,
it might just kill him.”
Six
months after my Dad’s brain surgery, he was doing well enough that he expressed
an interest in going south for his class reunion, and my brother brought him home
for a visit. Of course, Dad wanted to see Tex.
Fortunately,
the folks that had boarded Tex had several horses, one of whom was a chestnut
gelding with similar markings. And Dad’s eyes weren’t so good. Charlie drove
Dad out to the field where the horses were - at the opposite end of the field.
Dad kind of squinted into the distance and looked for a long time. Then he
said, with a little catch in his voice, “Well, he looks like he’s happy.”
If
Dad was happy, we were happy. And relieved.
Dad
passed away less than a year later, from a recurrence of the same brain tumor.
We had known from the beginning that we were fighting a losing battle but had
hoped for a few more years of quality of life for him. We buried Chuck Smith
with a western suit on, wearing his John Wayne bolo tie.
I’m
sure he was pleasantly surprised when Tex met him just inside the Pearly Gates.
When It’s Twilight on the Trail
When
it’s twilight on the trail,
And
I jog along,
The
world is like a dream
And
the ripple of the stream is my song
When
it’s twilight on the trail,
And
I rest once more,
My
ceiling is the sky
And
the grass on which I lie is my floor
Never
ever have a nickel in my jeans,
Never
ever have a debt to pay,
Still
I understand what real contentment means,
Guess
I was born that way.
When
it’s twilight on the trail,
And
my voice is still,
Please
plant this heart of mine
Underneath
the lonesome pine on the hill.